Writing this, or “about to say it” is carthratic in itself for whatever reason.
But over the past year or so and especially this year, I've been culling people off my “friend listS” and removing them PERMANENTLY in most cases for very valid reasons.
It's something I shoul dhave don eyears ago, of course
As they say, the teacher only appears when the student is truly READY!
And in that regard, I always knew that if one replaces what one does NOT want – promptly – with what does ONE want – even if that be MENTALLY – well - I didnt fully implement it until the past couple of years, and especially now.
Remove that which you don't want from your life.
(after giving it a good think, of course, but for me, really it's all about gut feeling and that is what it boils down to you too).
How do you feel when you talk to a person? Be with them? Explain something to them?
Are they even WILLING to acknowledge fact – think rationally – and so forth?
Are they WILLING to do what it takes to improve their own lives as opposed to rant?
In most cases, I've found the answer to be a huge NO .
And in these cases, I used to give people a second chance, and third chance ,and fourth, and .... until I realized THEY were dragging ME down with THEM.
Whether we realize it or not, we ARE the sum of people we “hang out with the most”.
And if it's you in your cave that you hang out with most, well ...
... And Napoleon Hill, of course, given the amount of readin gI do on him!
Anyway, here's the point.
Remove that which you don't want from your life, and what you DO want will replace it so quickly that you'll never miss what you removed.
I've seen it happen so many times that I cannot even say it – and I've WRITTEN about it as many times or more as well.
And I've EXPERIENCED it myself too.
Anyway. Thats ONE reason, but the other thing I want to say now, and that I've been ruminating about for the past 15 minutes or so?
Is this, my friend.
That people have a tendency to “leech”.
I don't know why it is, but every time I try and discuss something that matters to me, I either get NO response, or “the messages are too long”, or “I'm too busy right now” - - and yet, these same busy people would drop what they're doing in a New York Minute to listen to some idiotic TV show, or some political debate, or some nonsense that matters NOT in the grand scheme of things.
Same thing for fitness and “having no time”. Of course!
And while I used to accomodate these people in the past, I do NOT any more.
And a red flag to me is this.
When people discuss something with you, and you have an opposing opinion, and you state it, and thats that, and yet they keep trying to “convince” you despite the two of you (or more) clearly being in a position where “your perception of what is fact is the polar opposite from the other person” and therefore the “debate” or discussion has zero point, and you then “back down” (by not engaging in any more).
And then they get back with “How's it going there”.
Something which you had been asking them for a while, which of course they ignored.
And when you tell them how it is going, they ignore it and back to the roundtable that really “goes nowhere”
Not to mention some of the situations yours truly gets into are situations most people have never been in due to whatever reason, and so it's frustrating to “have to understand the other person” but the reverse not happening to YOU.
And I'm sure if you're reading this right now – YOU TOO can relate to this!
Last, but not least, you might want to think that the people I “remove” from my life are “bad” people or “not motivated” or “never going to make it”, or something like that.
Well, maybe in some cases, or a lot, but not all.
Many times, they're just not the right “fit” anymore, and especially with all the spiritual babbling yours truly does, sometimes I dont blame them for not being the right fit.
Hey, it ain't for everyone, the spiritual side of life!
Anyway, enough on that. But really, important life lessons there for those that choose to LEARN (listen first, and then learn – not ignore!).
And thats that for now. Back soon!
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PS#2 – And this also is another reason I RARELY if ever get into politcial debates anymore with ANYONE. Sometimes emotion clouds logic (often does) – and while thats great in a way, it doesnt make for logical discussion to say the least! Hehe.
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