If there is something that pisses me off no end, it is people that say one thing and do the exact opposite (or quite another).
I’ve made no secret of my distaste and dislike for those I consider to be grade A hypocrites (for instance, the dude from Hong Kong who complains up a storm about the mainland day in and day out and yet LIVES there).
Continues to live there despite his (very valid indeed) complaints.
Like dude. It’s not like someone’s forcing you to live in a place you hate . . .
Charles, a friend (or perhaps former friend as things stand now) of mine never shied away from telling me how much he wanted to visit India one day.
“Well, just do it buddy”, I kept telling him (along with advice of WHERE to go).
(Since he asked. Yours truly is hardly the sort to dispense unwanted advice!).
Has he ever followed up?
It’s been five years since I know him, if not more, and NO. He hasn’t.
“Uh, I didn’t get the chance”.
The real reason which of course is the 800lb gorilla in the room is the Chinese distaste for anything foreign in general and the intense dislike they have of “dark skinned people” (including their own).
And curiously enough (or maybe not given the rogue nation’s way of thinking) this is viewed as NORMAL in China.
Racism is normal, and even encouraged (albeit tacitly) by none other than many expats living there . . .
I’ll never forget, for one, how a Chinese property consultant picked at me skin once and exclaimed “But you’re not of Indian origin or Indian anyway! Your skin is yellow!”
But you get the picture.
And being his girlfriend is Chinese, well . . .
For those that don’t know, he’s of the same bent of mind as my Dad (who I obviously don’t agree with on anything) and is a firm believer in the philosophy of “keep the wife happy, and the family will be happy”.
My father never tired of telling me that growing up, and internally, I remember thinking what a crock of BS it was.
I mean, why does just ONE person have to be happy?
Unless you’re a masochist, of course, and funnily enough most . . . ah, but I best not go there ! ?
Anyway, that’s pretty much the reason he’s never visited, though he’ll never admit it.
I mean, dude.
He tells me that “it’s not because of her! She will do it if I tell her!”
Well, it doesn’t quite seem that way!
Back in the day, he once sourced some stuff from India, ostensibly for her and himself as well.
I still remember that night in September 2016 I believe it was . . .
“Are you sure you can trust me to do this?” I asked before accepting the money his girlfriend sent me (apparently he was too toasted to do it at that point).
We hadn’t met at that point, so it was a perfectly legit question, I’d say . . .
“Of course I can!”
And then we decided upon what exactly they wanted and if I could source it (after tutoring his girlfriend on how to “send the money” – don’t ask – long story).
We got everything he wanted. My wife did most of the shopping and when we met months later, I handed his stuff over to him.
And as expected, all went well. At that point, at least it did.
A month or so later, what happened was EXACTLY what I thought MIGHT Happen when I accepted Charles’s cash (which is why I was leery of doing so in the first place).
Apparently his girlfriend thought I “skimmed off the top” when getting them stuff.
God knows why, but that’s what she thought.
Actually I DO KNOW why, but we will get into that later!
There are few things that offend me more than being called a cheat and dishonest, my friend. Because if there are two things I ain’t, it is those two things!
EVERY time some of his money was used, I sent him a PROPER accounting. I still remember navigating in the car through the cows on the road, hehe, and sending Charles a message about it on wechat . . .
EVERY DAMN TIME.
And funnily enough, the guy himelf told us that “don’t worry about it! We don’t need an exact accounting!”
“If there is something you want to do for yourself with the money, do it provided it’s a little bit!”
(what he was indirectly saying is feel free to charge commission)
And I didn’t. What we did was use probably 7-8% of the money and use it to buy groceries etc instead of “splurging on a nice dinner” as Charles suggested (and he was right to say it, actually; at that point he was doing the right thing) so as to be as economical as possible. For obvious reasons.
And so, when months later this girl got back with her bombshell, I told my wife about it.
“Hmmmpph! If she thinks it’s too expensive, tell her to come here and buy it herself”
I don’t agree with most of my family on many things (as you know!) but I HAD to agree with my wife on this one.
“I can’t”, I laughed. “That’s not my job!”
“Why is she on your wechat anyway”, my wife fumed.
“Uh, because she sent me the money” . . .
And before it led to a fight I deleted the lady off my list, which is fine of course, since I didn’t know her from Adam other than the fact that she was a buddy’s girlfriend (and didn’t think highly of me to say the least, hehe).
Funnily enough, if you’d ask me if I was upset at her for thinking that way?
That’s just how the Chinese are, my friend.
John McIntosh, a past client of mine once told me that there was a time in his life he was a real estate agent and he closed a deal (to sell a large house).
“Done deal”, he told them.
“Cool! Let’s go to dinner!” the female half of the couple said.
They did, and guess what.
All throughout dinner these guys pestered John to lower the price even more, though it was a done deal!
There is a saying in mainland China which goes somewhat like this: contracts are worth nothing, maybe less than toilet paper.
And they ARE worth less than that!
Anyway, as I told my wife, the girls’ never been out of China most likely other than a trip or two to neighboring countries.
But for a man like Charles to not say anything about it was just . . . WRONG.
Given the very proper accounting he got.
Given everything HE SAID HIMSELF about it to me!
And so forth.
And given the current mess going on between India and China, you’d think he’d bother to “support the country he claims to love so much and wants to visit”.
Nothing doing. Lips sealed. If anything he’s probably even more vocal about saying the rogue nation is always right, and to hell with the rest of the world.
And being this is a dude that calls the Global Times China a “reliable source of information” (it’s about as reliable, or maybe even less than The Sun in the U.K. to say the least and has been designated and rightly so a propaganda outlet in the U.S.) . . .
Oh well. I rest my case. But really, dude.
If you really want to visit the country then quit talking and back up your talk with ACTION.
If you love the country, and you think, like you said all those years ago “The Indian are the ones who really have their shit together!” - - then PROVE it – NOW.
Crickets, I’m sure, but oh well.
Anyway, lest you think I’ve not been on this side of the equation, think again my friend.
Think several times!
Back in 1999 (long time ago, I know, hehe) my gym going roommate once got back from the gym.
And yours truly was lounging about with a beer in hand, lazy as usual (that was me back then! Hehe).
At the age of 19.
“I need to get in shape too”, I began half heartedly before I was cut off by my roomie.
“But you’ll never do it, will you”, he said.
And the excuse I made was so stupid that I wont’ mention it here.
Lets just say it makes what Charles says look like the most logical thing ever.
In fact it was so silly that I didn’t even say it outright, but my roomie KNEW . . .
Anyway . . . !!!
Point of me saying all this?
IS the obvious, for one. If you’re saying you want to do something, then do it, and fitness is the same damn way.
Don’t say you want to lose weight or “really need to lose weight” and then by your actions do the exact OPPOSITE of what you need to be doing.
If you really want that X shape to your body, or V shape to your back, then just DO WHAT needs to be done.
If you want to do pull-ups, then quit making excuses about being a so called big guy. Get your ass in shape and start to DO PULL-UPS!
And so forth.
And . . . before I finish this very lengthy piece off, it would NOT be complete without mentioning a person who is the exact opposite of the person(s) I’ve mentioned above.
A true WINNER in life, and a true FITNESS afficiando.
And I mean that!
Charles Mitchell, a long term customer of mine often tells me he’ll buy a certain book from me.
And without exception, he does it. In fact he’s probably bought the vast majority of my books already!
And he doesn’t just buy the books.
He does what I want MORE people to do i.e. actually DO the exercises, and get back with REAL feedback on them!
Let’s fact it, folks.
Simply buying the book doesn’t “walk the talk”. You have to DO what the books say, or there is no point.
And he does it, and then some!
Truly a man that MEANS what he says, and backs up his talk with REAL ACTION, and I commend you for that Charles! ?
And last, but not least, believe it or not, HE is the one responsible for me finally (after the space of a couple of months) getting my next book off the ground.
Sure, I’ve been busy. Sure, that other biz is eating up time. Yada, nada, schnada.
No excuses tho my friend!
And it was after his second email urging me to DO IT (and he’s RIGHT!) because I’m the real deal, and so forth, that I finally got around to getting some real work done on the book on isometrics.
And being I live in the flow, Animal Kingdom workouts is what came next!
THAT book will be the next one out, and believe it, it will have elements of isometrics and STATIC holds to it - - as well as plyometrics.
Alright, my friend. I’m almost at 2000 words again I see. Lets see how many people jump ship after reading this one, hehe.
P.S. – If you haven’t already, go HERE to pick up the 0 Excuses Fitness System. But remember. ACTIONS count, and if you’re just going to buy the product and do exactly squat all with it, then you might as well NOT invest in it. I only want people that are SERIOUS and COMMITTED To making a change in their life and fitness - - for the BETTER - - to have this, or any of my other products!
P.S #2 – As for Animal Kingdom Workouts, it would be DONE by now, but I’ve been wrestling with a mighty annoying problem all afternoon. My computer froze every time I right clicked on anything, and took forever to start back up. Don’t ask, hehe. More bugs in Win Blows. And I’m damned lucky I’ve got an I.T background or I wouldn’t know what the heck was going on!
(Edit – since this was written BEFORE the book was out - - and it IS out now - - HERE is the link for the book. If you got through all of what I said above, you deserve it! ?).
P.P.S – All seems to be on track now, including workouts, and I got done with a super one today. More on that soon! ?