All my life there has been one outstanding bone of contention between my family and myself – and indeed my friends as well ( a ot of them).
That being, accepting “what is”.
Case in point being a shitty school system that apparently contains my daughter’s holiday HW login and that apparently doesn’t have a “reset” password link anywhere on it.
My wife asked me yesterday morning if I could open my Whatsapp to check if I had the password.
“No I don’t”, I replied. “You never sent it to me. No problem though; send it over, and we’ll see what we can do” . . .
Apparently the issue is that the homework can (for whatever reason) not be downloaded (and can just be printed).
Which is insane in this day and age, of course .. .
And truth be told, if you can print, you can download – if you know, but of course, my wife wasn’t in a mood to listen to that.
“I don’t use Whatsapp for the most part”, I replied. “I don’t want to open it. It slows down my phone, and too many idiots and morons with nothing better to do are constantly sending barrages of messages all day long on it. I’ve had it, and I almost uninstalled the damned thing a while back”.
And it’s true. Due to the lockdown where my wife and daughter are, the schools are still all shut (which is pretty much the new global normal for the sheeple now, of course!) and so they’re doing their own version of shitty online teaching (and in my daughters case, apparently cooking classes and national “patriotism” infused nonensical song classes at the age of 6 no less).
Hey, I get it. Online teaching doesn’t work, period. It’s been tried, and it’s failed, and I’ve said this long before it was tried anyway. Some things just lend themselves better to in person!
Anyway, this led to a massive argument and fight over me saying “what a crappy system, and why they don’t improve it” (apparently my wife didn’t want to check her own Whatsapp, or her Whatsapp as she said “mysteriously disappeared” – wtf again?) and my wife making a face saying “that’s just how it is!”
And this aint just my wife. There are several aspects of life in India which to me make NO sense in this day and age.
For instance, you don’t have the ability to throw your own trash outdoors. Some guy shows up *(whenhe feels like it) to collect the trash, and when he’s sick, or not there, guess what.
Trash sits there, piling up like the proverbial “mound of Jehovah” (sorry, that’s an expression I’ve been using since my college days every time I come across something utterly ridiculous) and woe betide anyone that DARES to say “dumpster”.
People angrily yell back saying “this is how it is!”
Ummmm … but why can’t we CHANGE it?
Why do we have to always accept shit for what it is?
That’s probably one reason I never could stomach living in India for lengthy periods of time. China has it’s faults for sure, and I’ve made no bones about that, but BASIC hygiene and sanitation (while NOT ideal there) are still miles ahead of India, and at least when you bring up problems there (at least ones such as this) people listen.
Unless we’re talking the COVID, of course . . . and uh, I best not go there. How dare I, eh.
“That’s how it is”, I can just hear a Chinese person tell me angrily!
Well, I’m here to tell you this my friend.
That is NOT how it is.
And that ain’t how it’s “supposed to be”.
Its about your THINKING.
If you think, then you are (as you think, then you are was the original saying).
And so it is.
If Henry Ford had accepted that “you can’t ever build a motor car”, then we wouldn’t have it today.
Neither would we have the wireless, telephone, airplane, dumbphone, and all these other things we take for granted (and the idea of a garbage dumpster too at that).
Shooting the messenger doesn’t work, my friend. You might THINK it does, but all it does is cover and excaberate underlying conditions that YOU need to fix as opposed to go on lengthy rants about the other person pointing it out.
Fitnesswise, the same doggone thing applies.
It ain’t how it is, my friend. You do NOT have to be doomed to a life of being fat and feeling unhealthy, and SCARED every time you step out of the damn house.
You do NOT have to worry about getting fat with no gyms (or hills) around.
Where there is a will, there is ALWAYS a way.
But that way can only be shown to you once you STOP accepting the “that’s how it is and will remain “ dogma that is being shoved down your throats (funnily enough those shoving it down your throats DID NOT accept things for as they were themselves!).
Last, but not least, there are SOME things yes where “that’s just how it is”. Learning a new language and it’s nuances is one for instance (for example, there is no “why” when you say “Ni Hao” which translates into “You how” in English, and yet means “Hello”).
But note I said some things.
NOT the vast majority of things.
And the sooner you learn this truism, my friend, the better off YOU will be.
Best,
Rahul Mookerjee
P.S. – If you’re with me, and part of the very small and ever thinning minority that REFUSES to accept life for what it is – sets HIGH standards in terms of fitness, life and everything he/she does – then in terms of fitness, I’ve got just the program for you – (and indeed, this sort of thing will help you in LIFE as well if just for the sheer DISCIPLINE and FOCUS it will INFUSE you with) – right here – https://0excusesfitness.com/0excusesfitnessystem/
P.S #2 – They often ask (and rant) about why I don’t stay put in any one place for long. Well, long story to be honest, but here is why – in short – I don’t accept things for “as they are”. If I find a certain nation to be NOT to my liking, I DO something about it. I leave. It’s that simple. And the same thing goes for life, my friend. I’ll wax lyrical about this later, but for now, the point stands . . .
